Monday, July 28, 2008

On Being A Better Person

Sometimes I really don't like myself.
I have a coworker that really brings out the worst in me. He is about my age and has been a therapist for about as long as I have. He spent most of his career at a different hospital. I don't know why, or what it is about him. He's really not a bad guy. He's a little hyper and bossy and somewhat condescending. As an eldest child I know that I have bossy tendencies. All us firstborns do. I try really hard to keep it under control. With my co-worker, however, I can't help myself. When he starts making know-it-all comments or tries to tell me what to do, it just bristles something inside me. I get all show-offy and I have to one-up knock him down a peg. I don't like who I become when he's around. He makes me feel really competitive. I don't know why, we're not in competition with each other. We're peers.
Today I made a conscious effort to not let him get to me. I think it worked. Hopefully, I can keep it up.
I don't want to be a snot. I want to be a better person.


Debbie's Fun Bagz said...

I know what you mean. I am the oldest child and I always get bossy with my siblings. I sometimes think that since I am the oldest I know more than them or know what is better. I don't mean to be that way I think its just part of being the oldest and being a Leo. I have to remind myself that they may know something I don't know and we all can share our ideas. Isn't it fun being the oldest. When I start to feel bossy I back off and go work on one of my hobbies, until I calm myself down. Don't let they guy at work get to you, he may know that he is getting to you. don't give him the satisfaction.

Lisa said...

There are always people you just don't "click" with, or worse just tick you off for no reason. It's tough to be nice in those situations. I know if I didn't have Jesus helping me, I would be a horrible person to be around, because I am so easily annoyed. By stupid stuff too. We can all strive to be friendlier I guess.

Anonymous said...

I wish I could be a nicer person, but Jesus has been so damn busy helping lisa that he's been ignoring my phone calls.
I've had to depend on Thor, Norse God of Thunder, and he's simply not good at dealing with people. He just keeps encouraging me to fling thunderbolts and destroy villages whenever I'm annoyed. It's beginning to get a little out of hand.

My Wonderful Men said...

Like Lisa said there are those people we just don't click with sometimes. Everything about them can rub us the wrong way, did you see my post Blah, Blah, Blah it's one of our co-workers here who is like that - a know it all that never stops asking ? and talking all day long about nothing really. I want to hit this person so bad at times.

Keep trying to be the better person I know it's hard, but that's what I keep telling myself.

Good luck,

Anonymous said...

My BFF really hates a girl she works with. After much scrutiny we realized she didn't like she was her. MY BFF's role in whatever office she works is the perky, positive, hardworking, optimist. She finds a better way, draws diagrams, is precise. And so was her coworker.

I'm not saying you're in the same situation at's just the first thing that popped into my head.